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A Little Intro to Personal Dragons
Queen, on the off chance you aren’t already well acquainted with your own personal dragons just yet, let me introduce you to a couple of literary and pop culture possibilities that might be a starting place for reflection.
Smaug, the famous dragon from J.R.R. Tolkien’s “The Hobbit,” is often portrayed as arrogant and confident. He is proud of his hoard of treasure and believes himself to be invincible. However, there are also hints of insecurity in his character. He is paranoid about anyone taking his treasure and goes to great lengths to protect it. He also has a vulnerable spot on his chest that he takes great pains to hide. Smaug’s desire for his hoard may be fueled by a fear of losing it, suggesting a deeper fear or insecurity within him. Overall, while Smaug may seem confident and powerful, there are indications that he is not as secure in himself as he may appear…
On the other hand, let’s look at Toothless. Toothless is a dragon character from the popular How to Train Your Dragon. He is a Night Fury dragon, known for his sleek black body and glowing green eyes. Unlike most dragons, Toothless is a vegetarian and he communicates with his human companion, Hiccup, through a series of sounds and body language. Toothless is fiercely loyal and is always willing to go on adventures and take on challenges. He has a mischievous and playful personality, but also demonstrates bravery and selflessness when it comes to protecting his friends and family.
Toothless doesn’t breathe fire. He is a Night Fury dragon, which is a rare and intelligent species that is known for their ability to produce a plasma blast, not fire. The plasma blast is a highly concentrated and explosive mixture that is shot from the dragon’s mouth and can be used to blast through solid objects or enemies. Toothless is also known for his unique ability to control the intensity and direction of his plasma blasts, making him a formidable ally in battle.
So whadya think? Are you more Smaug or more Toothless in your day to day life?
Are you so afraid it makes you destructive?
Or are you a fierce ally to people you love?
All of us know that our inner dialogue and beliefs can shape our lives. Sometimes, we can feel like we have to constantly battle our inner demons and destructive firepower. But what if instead of always battling and trying to defeat them, we learned to tame these personal dragons?
Why Taming Your Personal Dragons is More Powerful Than Slaying Them
When we think of dragons, we are usually afraid of their fire and destruction, and we often think of slaying them. But when it comes to our personal dragons, slaying them may not be the most effective approach.
Hear me out: The act of slaying implies that we are trying to completely get rid of a part of ourselves, which can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, or inadequacy.
On the other hand, taming our personal dragons involves acknowledging and accepting these parts of ourselves. By learning to work with our inner dragons and destructive firepower, we can transform it into a source of strength, power and transformation. We can harness the energy that once worked against us and use it to achieve our goals.
Taming our personal dragons also allows us to embrace our full selves. When we try to slay a part of ourselves, we may be denying a valuable aspect of our personality or identity. Taming our personal dragons, on the other hand, allows us to acknowledge and integrate all aspects of ourselves, even the ones we may not like. Some call it “shadow work”.
Inner Dialogue: What Do You Say to Yourself?
Our inner dialogue can either be a powerful tool for self-improvement or a destructive force that holds us back. We all have that little voice in our heads that tells us we’re not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough. It’s important to be aware of our inner negative self-talk. The stories we tell ourselves can either lift us up or tear us down.
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
We all have stories we tell ourselves, often unconsciously and often a complete bunch of unfounded and untrue crap we’ve picked up from various experiences, people, and influences throughout our lives. These stories can be about our abilities, our worthiness, or our place in the world. Sometimes these stories can be limiting and hold us back from achieving our goals. But when we learn to question these stories and rewrite them, we can change the narrative and unlock our full potential.
Growth Mindset (thinking like Toothless): The growth mindset is a belief that your basic qualities, including intelligence and talent, can be cultivated through effort. This means that while people may be innately different, with certain aptitudes and temperaments, all aspects of a person’s abilities and personality can be changed, regardless of where your setpoint is.
Fixed Mindset (thinking like Smaug): The fixed mindset, on the other hand, is a belief that these same characteristics are fixed at birth or become locked-in by a certain age. This means that some people are just inherently more talented or intelligent than others and that’s just the way it is.
If you feel like at least part of you believes that intelligence and talent are fixed, you are not alone. Most people, especially in the western world, believe this because our culture teaches us that it’s true. Our internal stories perpetuate this fixed mindset and fuel our destructive fire and fear.
We tell ourselves stories like “I’m just not good at this” or “I’ll never be able to do that”, and we use these stories as a way to protect ourselves from the discomfort of failure or the unknown. But these stories limit us and prevent us from exploring our true potential. They keep us trapped in a fixed mindset, where we focus on things that are within our comfort zone.
If we can learn to recognize and challenge these stories, we can begin to shift towards a growth mindset. We can start to see failure as a learning experience, and effort as a way to improve and develop our talents and abilities. We can begin to tame our destructive fire and fear, and instead wield our personal power in a way that serves us and allows us to pursue our passions and purpose.
Harnessing & Taming Our Personal Power
Fire is a powerful symbol of both destruction and transformation. It can destroy and it can purify, depending on the circumstances. When we harness our personal fire, we can use it to create positive change in our lives. But when we let our fire run wild, it can destroy everything and everyone in its path. Learning to control and direct your internal dragonfire is essential for your own personal transformation and awakening.
How do we change destructive fire power to transformational fire power?
We can change destructive fire power by recognizing and understanding that it is a result of fear, anger, or frustration. Each of us has to individually take responsibility for our thoughts and emotions, as well as the impact they have on ourselves and others.
Now, you can transform this destructive energy into creative energy by understanding how to use your feelings in service of a greater cause. How? By focusing our energy on finding solutions, creating positive change, and forgiving ourselves and others. By recognizing how powerful and creative we truly are, we can transform that destructive, angry, dangerous fire power into a force for good. With practice, patience, and understanding, we can use our deepest and most exciting energy to make the world a better place for ourselves and others.
This journey begins with self-reflection and understanding of our emotions, thoughts, and actions. We have to start by being mindful of our feelings without judging them. Accept them and attempt to understand their source. Then, and only then, can we begin to redirect our energy toward positive outlets like creative problem solving, deepening relationships with others, and finding ways to forgive ourselves and others.
This takes practice and patience, but eventually, we can begin to identify the things that truly bring us joy and how that energy can be used in a positive way.
Through embracing our inner fire, we open ourselves up to experiences that allow us to explore our passions and desires. We can use this fire to help us push through difficult times and break down the barriers that stand in the way of our goals. With a brave, courageous spirit, we can turn negative thoughts into positive actions and manifest our wildest dreams.
We can also leverage our inner fire to create strong relationships that provide us with emotional support and challenge us to live out our purpose in alignment with our values. By connecting deeply with those we care about, we can share our stories and experiences in a way that encourages growth and understanding. Together, we can create something beautiful from the energy of our inner fire!
Learning to tame our personal power is crucial if we want to wield it without destroying ourselves or others. As you can tell by now, we have to take responsibility for our actions and learn to use our power in positive and constructive ways. When we learn to tame our personal dragons, we can harness our inner strength and ignite our passion. We can also be a force for good in the world, making sure that our power is being used to spread kindness and understanding instead of hatred and fear. By learning to embrace our personal power, we can make a real difference in the lives of others and ourselves.
In conclusion, taming our personal dragons is a symbolic act of overcoming our inner demons and destructive firepower. By paying attention to our inner monologue, questioning the stories we tell ourselves, and harnessing our personal power to ignite a transformational fire, we can unleash our full potential and achieve dreams that we never considered possible.
You are as exciting and dangerous and powerful as that dragon you’ve been imagining in your head while reading this post. Harness that energy, and step into your greatness, Queen.